LOL. Don't worry. I won't ask that question. My question is.... It breaks my heart to hear about the family issues you had. I know you say it is the principle, but don't you think at 40 you could just be the bigger person and forgive past grievances and move on? You will feel so much better for it. Life is way too short to worry about who said or did what to who. This is your family. Nancy needs you, Jim needs you. Maggie needs you. Brian needs you. Your nieces and nephew need you. You need all of them. Don't hold onto that anger forever. Don't take it to the grave.